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📱 51 Texts for Dating Success
PLUS: What to do when she ends things abruptly, 6 golden communication tips
51 Texts for Dating Success
You’ve been there…
Staring at your screen, thumbs hovering, searching for just the right words to text her.
The first week of texting can be tricky, and it can feel like every word counts.
But you don't need to be Billy Shakespeare to get it right.
Today, we're rolling out the first date texting bible. Over 50 templates to get you through almost any likely dating scenario…
Be it transitioning from a dating app to IRL, or those puzzling "Did she ghost me?" moments, these templates are your ultimate guide.
They'll serve you as you ease back into dating, and until you're comfortable enough to lean more into your own personality.
My secret? Never overthink it. And we've taken allllll the guesswork out for you 😍
The only goal is to get her to hit that ‘reply’ button!
Scenario 1 - When you want to move from a dating app to a video call/phone call
A FaceTime call is a great dating strategy that allows you to see if there’s enough chemistry and mutual excitement to invest your valuable time into a real first date.
Text templates:
How about a video call after work? It'd be nice to chat in real time.
Wanna hop on a quick call?
Been enjoying getting to know you, how about a quick video call to mix things up?
Up for a call? I promise, better conversation than any app notification 😋
Pro tip:The key to a successful transition to video is to paint a picture. Let her know exactly what she can expect and keeping the ‘date’ short.
Here are some examples:
Hey, it’s been nice chatting with you. I’ll be going for a short walk with my pup around 7PM, wanna hop on FaceTime and meet him? :)
I’m just about to pour a glass of wine before heading out with the boys in a bit. Wanna hop on FaceTime for a quick chat? :)
Transparency is the name of game. If you sense she’s hesitant, be upfront. You can say something like:
Just wanna make sure you think I'm as charming in real life as I am in text 🙈 But for real, I know we both have busy schedules, a quick call is a nice way to get to know each other a bit better before planning our first date. Are you up for that?
Scenario 2 - When you want to ask her out on a first date
Taking the leap from texting to asking her out might have you second-guessing: "Too soon?", "Should I shoot my shot?", “Is now the right time?”
Here's the scoop: Women who actually want to date are hoping you’ll make a move. The best time to do so is when the vibes are high, like when she just laughed at your joke, sent a flirty emoji 😍 or you catch yourself smiling.
Text templates:
This is fun. Are you up for getting together? Would love to take you out for coffee or drinks this week.
Thinking we can grab drinks this weekend… I know the perfect spot. What do you say?
I've had a good time chatting with you, are you down to grab a coffee together? I know the best place in town for biscotti and cappuccinos.
I’m really enjoying our conversation. The weather is supposed to be fantastic tomorrow, would you be up for a walk?
Let’s grab a bite Friday or Sunday? If you like Spanish, I just found a spot with the tastiest tapas ever 😍
This is as good as my texting skills get 😅, I’m worried I’ll spell something wrong soon and send you running 🙈 What do you say we plan to meet for drinks this weekend?
OK… that’s 2 LOLs I got from you - I’m sure I can do an even better job in person! Would you be up for grabbing ice cream this weekend?
All this talk about Mexico has me hungry! Would you be up for tacos and margaritas Friday night?
Scenario 3 - When she hasn't responded to your last text yet and you have a date coming up
It's natural to feel a touch of anxiety when messages go unanswered 😵💫 Here's a mantra for modern dating: Always assume the date is on unless told otherwise! But given today's flaky scene, a quick follow-up to check in is both smart and justified.
Text templates:
Hey! Just touching base about tomorrow. All good for our coffee date?
Hey! Hope your week is going well! Looking forward to drinks on Friday. Are we still on? 🙈
Word on the street is you've been thinking of the best reply to my last text. Until then, are we still on for drinks tomorrow?
Hey! Just checking in about our date tomorrow! Looking forward to it 😉, everything good to go?
Hey! Are we still on for tomorrow?
Scenario 4 - When you need to cancel your date, but worried you’ll lose the opportunity altogether
People are quick to dismiss these days, so cancelling a date can seem like a risky move. But this is real life, and real stuff comes up. So no stress! The key is to be upfront and honest, and to reschedule right away.
Text templates:
I’m so sorry (name)! Something just came up at work that I need to take care of. I’m still looking forward to seeing you, so how about I move our dinner reservations to Thursday or Saturday night?
I've been hit with a last-minute [work/family/friend] commitment and unfortunately need to postpone our date. How about we meet for brunch this Sunday instead?
Hey (name), I really hate to do this but I’m not feeling well and would hate to not be able to put my best foot forward tonight. Can I make it up to you over drinks this weekend instead?
…. If not, pick a day and I’ll make it work - promise.
…Trust me, I’d much rather be having drinks on a rooftop with you! Is there another day you’re free this week?
Scenario 5 - What to say right after you hit it off on a first date
If you enjoyed the date, let her know right away. Authenticity wins. So long 3-day rule 👋🏽
Text templates:
Hey, did you get home safe? :)
Hope you got home alright! Can’t wait to do this again!
Still smiling about tonight. Let's do that again soon!
Time flew with you, (insert memorable moment here “was so funny when the waiter confused us with that other couple!). See you soon 🙂
I had a really nice time tonight, (name) ❤️
Tonight was fun!! Would love to do it again!
Thanks for a great night!
Our date tonight? 10/10.
Thanks for a memorable evening, (name). Looking forward to our next adventure
That was really fun, have a good night! Will be in touch tomorrow :)
Scenario 6 - When you want to go on a second date
If you enjoyed the first date and want to see her again, come up with a plan and suggest a round 2!
Text templates:
Hey! Had a great time last week. Up for bowling this weekend?
Hey! I'm gonna check out the Van Gogh exhibit that’s in town this weekend. Up for it?
Hey (name)! Hope you (insert personal note here “crushed your work presentation this week!”) I had a good time on Friday 🙂 Would you be up for getting together again?
So, ready for round two? I have a fun idea for our next date!
Scenario 7 - When you went on a first date but aren’t interested in a second
It happens! Not everyone is a perfect match. The best approach (and the only fair one) is to be honest. Ghosting is off the table 👻❌
Text templates:
I had a great time on our date last night. If I’m being honest though, I feel we’d be better off as friends if you’re open to it.
Had a nice time meeting you. After giving it some thought, I didn’t quite feel the chemistry. Hope you understand.
I’m glad we had the chance to meet. But to be honest, I kinda feel like we’re looking for different things. Wishing you all the best.
🧠 Remember, it's not about her reaction. It's about how you choose to operate on the dating scene, and integrity should be at the forefront.
Scenario 8 - When you're getting a weird vibe from her
When in doubt, just ask. Yes — it can be that simple. The more you practice communicating clearly, the better you'll get at dating.
Text templates:
I might be reading this wrong but it feels like there’s a bit of a disconnect. Everything alright?
It’s really easy to confuse tone in text… can we hop on a quick call?
Did we just have an 'awkward text moment'? 🙈 I’m game to laugh it off and move forward if you are! What are you up to this weekend?
Hey stranger! How’s your week going so far? Would love to see you again if you’re up for it. Also, we only just met so if this isn’t for you - no hard feelings! 🍻
Scenario 9 - When she expresses a lot of interest but then ends things abruptly
This one hurts. You’ve been on maybe 1-2 dates, got another in the books, and then you get that dreaded text… She’s had a change of heart and isn’t feeling it anymore.
When it’s this early on, pleading is off the table. But you can absolutely muster up the courage to ask for clarity, if you're up for it.
If you want to accept and move on, that's straightforward. Just let her know you appreciate her honesty. But if you're itching to understand why, go ahead and ask! Don't let your ego get in the way.
Think of early stage dating as your training ground. Every date is a valuable lesson and step forward if you want it to be. No more scratching your head or being left in the dark…
So, if she's open to sharing, this scenario is your golden chance to get some insights. She's already decided it's not a match, so why not gain something from it? But here's a tip: if you're going to ask for clarity, give it a little breathing room (maybe a few hours or a day, depending). Accept her feelings first, then inquire!
The Acceptance route:
Thanks for being upfront with me. I appreciate your honesty (it’s lacking big time these days!) Take care and all the best.
The Clarity route:
I totally respect your feelings and decision. Just for my own understanding and growth, is there any specific feedback or reason you're willing to share? No pressure though.
[BONUS]Scenario 10 - When she asks for your social media but you’re not up for sharing yet
Sometimes, you're just not in the mood or ready to share your FB/Instagram. Maybe your last post was from 2016, or you're just a private guy, whatever the case, it's no big deal. Stand by your choice and do you.
Text templates:
Hope you don’t mind, I usually take it slow with sharing socials. I hope that’s cool!
I’m a bit of a low-key guy on social media. Can we stick to texting for now?
Not big on social media these days 🙂 How’s your day going so far?
🧠 IMPORTANT! KEEP THIS IN MIND…
Not all templates under a specific scenario will apply! It really depends on your specific situation, so choose wisely and tweak them to fit your personal style 😎
We aimed to give you several options in each so you can borrow the ones that best fit the dating scenario at hand.
For example, if it was a friendly date, maybe skip the ‘heart’ emojis.
At the end of the day, these templates are a jumping-off point — Common sense plays a major role.
Before we wrap up, here are 6 golden communication tips to ensure your texting game remains smooth and seamless…
Mirror her texting style. If she replies with “ok” and “sure” then now’s not the time to send her a novel about your day. Keep it short and sweet.
Keep it light and playful. This is key when it comes to navigating awkward situations. A sprinkle of humor can easily turn an "oops" into an "LOL". When things get weird, a playful nudge can put things back on track.
Don’t forget emojis. It’s easy to misread a text message (we’ve all been there!), so be sure to sprinkle in some emojis to help convey your tone 😇🙈😅
Save it for the date. While it's nice to stay in touch, ensure your messages are clear and to the point. Save those longer, heart-to-heart conversations for IRL dates.
Address her by name often(but without overdoing it). For simplicity, we didn’t include a (name) mention in every template, but typically, if it’s a new day, start by mentioning her name “Hey Jess!”. Without getting into psychology, people like to hear their name!
Don’t reply when you’re feeling anxious or nervous. Your texts should always be backed by good confident energy. Do 10 push-ups, put on a song that gets you pumped, splash your face with cold water - anything that gets you out of your head for a few mins. Then hit reply.
So there you have it! A treasure trove of texts and tips to guide you through the early stages of dating like a pro 🙌🏽
Just remember, each time you use a template, lean into your personality a little more, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. Nothing will create a real connection more than letting your most authentic self shine through!