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🤷 Why you can't get past the 1st date
PLUS: 7 low pressure date examples, Try the Familiar First Approach

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🤷 The heart of the matter: Why you can't make it past the first date
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HEART OF THE MATTER
Why you can't make it past the first date 🤷

Let us paint a picture for you.
After endless 'Right' swipes, you get a match - finally.
You muster up the courage to ask her out. She's open to it. Great - the wheels are in motion.
The date goes OK.
Both worn out by the process, you casually agree to see each other again.
In the following days, you try to set up a second date. Conversation is moving, but slow 🐢
Your schedules are busy and it's hard to find a time that works for both of you.
This cat-and-mouse game continues.
As the days go by, you do your best to keep the conversation alive, but the initial spark starts to fade. Until finally, she stops responding.
And just like a bottle left uncorked, you're forced to start over, each time feeling less spirited than before 😕
But what if dating didn't have to be such a pounding headache? What if there was a straightforward path that could simplify finding a fantastic girlfriend?
Well, there is.

💡 We've coined it the ‘Familiar First Approach’.
This strategy is inspired by a psychological phenomenon known as the Mere Exposure Effect. It's a straightforward principle about how humans tend to cultivate a preference for things as they become more familiar.
Think about that pop song you weren't into at first, but after a few listens, you couldn't help but tap your foot along to the beat 🎶
When we apply this concept to dating, it suggests that the more familiar we become with someone, the more likely we are to develop a fondness towards them.
Pretty convenient, huh?
We made a diagram for you that breaks it down:

But can it be that simple? We believe so.
Before we dive into how to use the ‘Familiar First Approach’, let's take a quick moment to reflect on why you need it.
Enter: The dismissive dating culture we live in today *whomp whomp*.
We've become a society in a hurry to decide if someone is "worth" our time. First dates have become less about excitement and more about ticking boxes. We've lost sight of romance, the joy of getting to know someone, the art of conversation, and being present in the moment.
We're not suggesting you waste your time either. We know chemistry is important and when you truly know there's zero connection ❌ on a first date, it's OK to move on.
But! If there's a glimmer of potential - a good conversation, a shared interest, even just a feeling of comfort - give it a chance. Just as wine gets better with age, attraction can grow over time 🌱
Alright, let's run it back, this time armed with the Familiar First Approach 💪

After endless 'Right' swipes, you get a match - finally.
You muster up the courage to ask her out. She's open to it. Great - the wheels are in motion.
The date goes OK.
Both worn out by the process, you casually agree to see each other again.
And here's where you break the cycle 💣
Rather than waiting weeks for your busy schedules to line up, you'll use the Familiar First Approach, which encourages you to aim for more frequent, low-pressure meet-ups.
The secret lies in the moments squeezed between your already packed calendars.
Here are some examples: