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The Dating Dose
February 17, 2024
"Learn from yesterday, live for today and hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.”
— Albert Einstein
Greetings Gentlemen!
It’s Coach Kavita here 👩🏻 I’m a Love Coach for Men, and the Writer behind The Dating Dose!
I help growth-minded men (just like you) re-enter the dating world, build unshakable confidence, and find LOVE! ❤️
Each week, I’ll be here sharing the kind of expert dating advice and insights that clients pay the big bucks for 💰
Btw, I would love to get to know you better 🙂 Click here to tell me about yourself.
In today's dose... 💉
❤️🔥 5 Fresh Q&As
🧔🏽♂️ 3 Tips to Get The ‘Right Woman’
👩🏻 Confess Your Crush: Yes or No?
💪🏽 Man Up Mission - “Hit Submit!”
And more!
AWESOME STUFF I FOUND FOR YOU THIS WEEK…
The Best On The Net
DATING DEEP DIVE
Everyday, I post a Q&A on my Instagram story.
Where I answer all your questions about dating and relationships 😇
No question is too ‘beginner’ and I get a wide range of interesting inquiries.
Men are eager to learn from the struggles and experiences shared by others, often finding they're not alone in their journey.
Here are the top questions from men last week…
Shawn asked 👇🏽
“I have feelings for a friend, how do I show interest without flat out saying it?”
It’s tough when it comes to friends, because if you’re super close, there can be a lot at risk.
However, with a casual friendship, the concerns are minimal.
It’s important to remember, that in both cases, many relationships start out this way, as friends first.
It’s also totally normal to catch feelings for someone you spend a lot of time with. Especially if you’re both single.
Being friends gives you access to information you otherwise wouldn’t have…
So before ‘flat out saying it’, you can find out what she likes, what she’s looking for in a partner and if she’s even looking to date right now.
Once you know you want to go for it, trust yourself and let her know.
The longer you wait, the more you’ll overthink things and place unnecessary weight on the friendship.
Sometimes you need to take a risk! What’s the alternative?
Terence asked 👇🏽
“How do I get the right woman to communicate with me who's genuinely interested in me?”
1. Be the right man — work on yourself, be worthy of the type of woman you want to meet.
2. Become an excellent communicator.
3. Start dating. Gain experience. Get clear on who “the right woman” is for you.
Sorry guys! There’s no short cut. This is a loaded question!
Your current results on the dating scene are a combination of your mindset, outlook, limited beliefs, perspectives, confidence levels, goals, patterns, relationship history.
The list goes on — far too many variables.
But if you’re not getting the results you want, or the response from women you desire…. take a good long look in the mirror.
This is an internal thing, not external.
It can sound overwhelming. Just start small!
Make a plan.
Speak to someone you trust.
Be willing to spend some money — invest in dating courses, therapy, coaching.
Go read through past editions of The Dating Dose, they are literally a free roadmap for everything you need to do.
Be willing to put in the work or nothing will change.
Seth asked 👇🏽
“I met someone in a group setting recently and I’m nervous about messaging her. Any Advice?”
Being from the same “group” is a strong starting point, not to mention a great icebreaker!
I understand you may feel nervous, but try to remember that this is how it’s done.
This is how we meet new people, make new friends and find love 🙂
When you message her, go in with the intention to make her day, and without expectations. Be kind, authentic and friendly.
Pro Tip: Does someone from the group know her well? Maybe they can help get the wheels in motion and put you in touch with her.
William asked 👇🏽
“What’s the difference between compromise and changing yourself to get attention?”
I'm going to make an informed guess and say that if you're seeking attention, it's probably because you're looking for connection—and that's a good thing.
Viewing this desire as a compromise or an unwanted change will only stand in your way.
If you're after something, embrace the excitement of pursuing it.
As long as you're not compromising your integrity or pretending to be someone you're not, it's perfectly okay to experiment.
Remember, you're not limited to just 'one way of being.'
Becoming more playful, flirty, improving your conversation skills, or dressing better are all positive changes.
In this context, ‘changing yourself’ can be incredibly beneficial.
Nabil asked 👇🏽
“How do you date in a small rural town (<2000 people) with no one single your age?”
Move... ? 🤷♀️
Sounds like this should be a serious consideration if meeting someone is important to you.
You can also start online dating in cities you’d be open to moving to before taking the plunge.
DON’T SKIP THIS…
🙋🏻♀️ Make sure to scroll down for this week’s Man Up Mission, where I guide you to becoming more comfortable getting answers to your own pressing dating questions.
And there you have it! Real questions from real men, just like you.
Remember, you don't have to navigate this alone! I'm here to help guide you every step of the way.
IT’S TIME FOR ACTION! THIS WEEK’S MISSION IS…
'Hit Submit’
When I coach clients, we don't just chat over coffee. We roll up our sleeves and get our hands dirty.
That's why every week, I bring you the Man Up Mission. Think of it as your weekly homework with a fun twist, designed to get you real results in your dating life.
📬 ‘Hit Submit’ is all about embracing your curiosity and the strength in seeking support!
This week, your mission is to open yourself up to new perspectives and assistance. You have 7 days to complete the steps below:
Step 1 - Reflect! Take a moment to write down 1 question that's on your mind. If it’s about dating, great. But it doesn’t even have to be! Any question you have about being single right now is valid.
Step 2 - Connect! Follow me on Instagram by clicking here. (Btw, I share a ton advice and resources for men that you don’t wanna miss.)
Step 3 - Submit! Check out my story for the latest “Ask Coach Kavita” question box, and submit your question to me!
💡Pro-tip - Not used to asking for help? If this mission makes you uncomfortable, all the more reason to lean into it.
And remember this, by asking your question, you help not only yourself but also your fellow men on similar paths. Someone out there will be grateful you asked!
You got this! 💪🏽
I WANNA HEAR FROM YOU! 👂🏽
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That's all for now!
If you’re ready for more in your love life, click here to tell me about yourself! 🤝🏽
—Coach Kavita ❤️