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💌 This DM Method Will Reveal If Your Dating App Game is On Point

Still getting ghosted?

Greetings Gentlemen,

Welcome to the upside of the dating world. I’m Coach Kavita 🙋🏻‍♀️ Love Coach for Men. Each week, I share expert dating advice to help you get better at dating.

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Matches can be hard to come by these days…

And that first message can feel like walking a tightrope…

You got a match — yay! She's cute, interesting, just your type - and you're excited to get the conversation going.

But then... the usual song and dance begins. You feel the need to craft the perfect first message…

Maybe it's because you never got a reply the last time, or the conversation fizzled out right away.

I get it.

The need to stand out.
The desire to say something clever.
The fear of messing it up and having to start over.

But what if I told you there was a way to get her attention without overthinking it? (And without having to dust off your old copy of The Game)

The truth is, the type of women you are looking to meet aren’t swayed by cookie-cutter perfection.

Just like you, they’re craving authenticity in a sea of boring “Heys” and cheesy one liners.

Today I’m handing over the keys to the AKAC Framework: My easy to follow, step-by-step method for starting Authentic Kick-Ass Conversations on dating apps every time.

Your online experience is about to do a complete 180. Let’s go!

Step 1 - Read her full profile

The first step sounds straightforward but you’d be surprised at how many men don’t bother reading profiles, and just barely skim photos.

Before you think about sending a message, you must read her entire profile from top to bottom, NO exceptions. Be present and pay close attention. Her bio is your ultimate cheat sheet!

Step 2 - What made you smile?

Ah, the secret sauce!! As you read her profile, what was the first thing that either:

  • Caught your attention 😍

  • Made you curious 🤓

  • Brought a smile to your face 😊

Was it the picture of her pup at the dog park? Or the mention of her love for Italian food?

Whatever the case, that's what you should run with—even if it’s super basic. Why? Because genuine interest can be felt.

There's a big difference between working overtime to ‘say the right thing’ VS leading with what actually caught your eye about her. It also sets the tone for a real and meaningful exchange going forward.

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Step 3 - Share something you have in common

Next, look for shared interests or commonalities in her profile.

Maybe you're both diehard Radiohead fans, or closet 'Love is Blind' fans (no judgement!).

Want more secret sauce? Just living in the same city is a solid point of connection.

Bringing up what you share in common creates a sense of comfort and builds credibility, while mentioning something about the city you both live in (like a restaurant, landmark or upcoming festival) quickly establishes trust.

Step 4 - Ask a question!

Lastly, you’re going to finish up this winning message with a casual question.

Again, it doesn’t have to be clever (or even related to her profile). Something simple is all you need. Like:

  • “Any fun weekend plans?

  • How’s Summer been treating you?”

  • “How’s your Monday going?”

The goal here is to make it easy for her to engage in a light conversation with you. Many women are naturally drawn to answering questions — it taps into her desire to share and connect.

Now, let’s see the AKAC framework in action.

First, read Sara’s full profile:

Next, let's use Sara’s profile as our example for how to initiate an Authentic Kick-Ass Conversation. We've color-coded the steps to make it foolproof.

And, there you have it — the AKAC framework in all its glory.

Don’t be fooled by its simplicity — this method is highly effective and has helped hundreds of men get better at online dating, not to mention enjoy it more.

The beauty of this approach is that it's so adaptable. Whether you’re texting Sara, Deepa, or Lucy, the core steps remain the same.

With practice, soon enough it will become second nature to you.

🧠 PRO TIP!

It can be frustrating when a conversation seems to be going well, but then you're met with silence — no reply to your last message. Don't jump to the worst conclusions!

The reality is women often get more matches and messages than men. It's entirely possible your chat simply got lost in the shuffle. So, don't be discouraged and, more importantly, don't take it personally! She doesn't even know you yet.

The key is to find a warm and genuine way to stand out and bump the conversation back up.

For example:

  • "Hey, how's it going? I enjoyed our last chat and was hoping to continue the convo!"

  • “Following up. Was enjoying our convo. Xo.”

  • “Busy day? Was enjoying our chat 😇

  • "Hey, hope you're doing well. Still up for coffee some time?"

  • “Leaving me in suspense are we? 🙈