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Coach K's 'First Pitch' Method, and 14 effective convo starters

Greetings Gentlemen,

Welcome to the upside of the dating world. I’m Coach Kavita 🙋🏻‍♀️ Love Coach for Men. Each week, I share expert dating advice to help you get better at dating.

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It Doesn’t Matter What You Say

When it comes to approaching women, what you say matters less, as long as you can grab her attention.

This 7 second clip is the perfect example 👇🏽 (Watch, don’t skip it!)

Even a (somewhat) cheesy one-liner can work, as long as you’re a good guy and can deliver the goods afterward.

I’m handing over the keys 🔑 to my First Pitch Method.

I love this method because it’s simple and can be used anywhere; at an event, standing in line, or even in the cereal aisle 🛒 

Coach K’s First Pitch Method 👋🏼

Step 1: Say something random or silly that’s enough to get her attention on you.

  • “You know… this place is supposedly haunted.”

  • "You know, I'm the one responsible for (the weather today)”

  • “You know, I’m the reason they invented the (cappuccino)”

  • “You know, I’m the inventor of the (wine glass)”

Step 2: She responds with either a playful “Oh really?” or a curious “Huh?”.

This is your cue…

Step 3: Keeping the mood light, tell her the truth and introduce yourself.

  • “I don’t actually know, but I didn’t know how else to break the ice. I’m John by the way. What’s your name?”

And that’s it! Watch me break it down on video here.

Look, women have good intuition—and chances are, she's heard it all before. Just be real, you don’t have to keep up the charade.

Step 4: The only transition you’ll ever need

If the vibes are good, end off with a casual:

  • “So, how do we keep in touch after this?”

More convo openers for ya 🗣️

At a Wedding, party or event:

  • “This is my first time at one of these events. How about you?"

  • “I don’t think I’ve met you yet, I’m John, what’s your name?”

  • “Hey, saw you from over there and thought I’d come say Hi. I’m John by the way”.

Standing in line:

  • “Oh nice, what did you get?” (buying wine for example)

  • "It's so [busy/quiet] in here today, isn't it?”

At the park:

  • "I couldn't help but notice your pup 🐶 from across the park, boy or girl?”

Bar / Restaurant:

  • “Can I make a suggestion?”

  • “The [fries] here are the best”

  • (Referring to her cocktail) “That looks good, what is it?”

  • Playfully: “I'm debating between [two items on the menu], what do you think I should get?"

  • Playfully: "Can you order me for me? I can't decide what to get today.”

Someone on her phone:

  • Jokingly: “So, what’s trending on TikTok?”

  • Jokingly: “Hey… looking up conversation starters?”

Starbucks:

Play to win 🏆 If you go in with expectations… you’ve already lost.

When you go up to a woman, please be sincere and respectful—and release your expectations. The goal is not to have an agenda other than to connect, have fun, and make her day better.

PSA: You’ll fumble 80% of the time

You know Joey from Friends and his iconic 'How you doin?' pick up line.

It got him more eye rolls than dates. But it doesn’t matter…

Because if you fumble 80% of the time, it means 20% of the time, it will work.

That’s one phone number, date or Instagram exchange for every 5 attempts.

Pretty groovy if you ask me.

In the dating game, every fumble is a step forward. You get better at what you practice. So stop missing out on opportunities to meet women and step up to the plate.

With love,

Coach Kavita
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—Coach Kavita ❤️