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😱 The Male Behavior That Scares Women Away
PLUS: Matthew McConaughey’s dating advice, The 4-Week calendar rule
The Dating Dose
August 03, 2023
Greetings gentlemen!
This is The Dating Dose. We're like the yoga instructor of your love life, helping you master the balancing act of dating without toppling over.
In today's dose... 💉
📕 The male behavior that scares women away
🌐 Matthew McConaughey’s dating advice
🗓️ The 4-Week calendar rule
💪🏾 Man Up Mission teaser
And more!
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📺 3 things that happen when you rush into a relationship (link)
📺 Setting boundaries (link)
📺 Matthew McConaughey’s dating advice (link)
HEART OF THE MATTER
The male behavior that scares women away.
Let’s jump right in, because this is a juicy one.
Here’s a text we got from a client:
2 weeks later, these roll in:
First, a round of applause for our brave client who candidly shared his struggle – he's not alone.
Many men find themselves caught in the same cycle during the early stages of dating (we're talking the first few weeks, a handful of dates).
They get swept up in the thrill of a new connection and become needy. But too much too soon can lead to the exact opposite of your intentions.
So, how are you supposed to know you're jumping in too fast? And more importantly, what can you do about it?
Good news is, becoming aware of these patterns (like our brave client demonstrated) is the first big step towards a healthier approach to dating.
Let's start by looking at some common indicators of becoming attached too fast:
Romanticizing the relationship: You imagine only the perfect scenarios and think way too far into the future.
Over-communicating: You send multiple texts all day and she’s not matching your output or responding enthusiastically.
Overthinking: You feel anxious, often for no clear reason, such as when she doesn’t respond right away.
Boundary issues: You find it hard to respect her boundaries and don’t have any of your own.
Overbooking: You try to lock in several plans at a time because you’re nervous about not seeing her again.
But awareness isn’t enough by itself, because the real challenge arises when you're in the midst of it all. So you need to think of your new relationship as a training ground and opportunity for growth.
Now let's switch gears and look at practices for addressing these self sabotaging behaviors:
Grounding yourself: When you catch yourself romanticizing the relationship, take a step back to remind yourself of where things truly stand today, and appreciate that this is an exciting time to get to know her and explore this phase of your relationship.
Balanced communication: If you find yourself over-communicating, initiate a light-hearted chat about each of your desired communication styles around texting, phone calls and social media.
Surfacing from the rabbit hole: When you find your thoughts
spiraling, bring yourself back to the present moment with meditation, exercise, fresh air or any change of state that resonates with you most.
Setting boundaries: If you're struggling with boundaries, start by defining a few of your own and asking about hers as well. Make sure you’re on the same page about how to respect each other’s.
Focus on Fun Experiences: If you find yourself over-scheduling out of nervousness, redirect that energy towards making each encounter enjoyable and exciting. Concentrate on discovering activities together, scheduling them at a pace you’re both comfortable with.
Pro Tip: Use affirmations as a tool to reinforce positive dating habits. Repeat them regularly to remind yourself to pace the relationship. For example: "A relationship needs room to breathe, grow, and develop."
Equip yourself with these practices but understand most of them can only be effective when complemented by clear communication.
We know being open and vulnerable is uncomfortable for a lot people - especially when you just start seeing someone, but you must lean into it…
Because what's the alternative?
Staying silent and leaving her to fill in the gaps until she walks away?
Communication is the foundation for all relationships at any stage. It's crucial to do the work on overcoming fears and hesitations around open and direct dialogue.
Another behavior that can send women running like Usain Bolt is neglecting your personal life.
We all have that friend who plays the disappearing act every time he starts seeing someone new.
Submerging yourself completely in a brand new relationship can be a red flag for many women. It creates unnecessary pressure and signals a lack of independence.
If you recognize this pattern in yourself, try out our 4-Week Calendar Rule:
🗓️ The 4-Week Calendar Rule
This rule is about solidifying your personal commitments for the foreseeable future. Schedule your usual activities, be it soccer practice, gym sessions, family dinners, or nights out with friends, and block off these times in your calendar. Even if you don't have specific plans yet, allocate some days or evenings for potential non-relationship activities.
The crucial part of this rule is to commit to keeping these plans for the next 4 weeks, no matter what. Treat them as non-negotiable.
When you maintain your independence, it sends a clear message that you're not likely to become overly dependent or clingy.
In fact, presenting yourself as a well-rounded man with a fulfilling life significantly increases your attractiveness!
So there you have it, a path to healthier dating, free from the trap of getting invested too soon.
Sounds easy? The truth is, for some, it can be. At the same time, if these habits have been years in the making, they won't untangle overnight.
This process is as much about unlearning old patterns as it is about establishing new ones. So, be patient with yourself and keep practicing. Every step you take forward, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction.
Lastly, a key aspect of all this is honoring the different phases of dating. The early stages are filled with excitement and discovery, which deserves to be enjoyed and not rushed through.
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THE USUAL...💓
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🪞 Affirmation of the week:
“I’m making the conscious choice to slow down.”
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Until then, go over today’s Heart of the matter article (above) — re-read it, soak it in, take notes, and keep your eyes peeled for how to put it into action.
AND AS ALWAYS...
“Shoot your shot and detach from the outcome”
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-The Dating Dose Team ❤️