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Never Overthink What To Text Again!

Ever found yourself staring at your phone, thumbs hovering, unsure about the next text to send?

The stakes feel high—your heart's racing a little, maybe even your palms are sweating. This next message could either get you that date or send you back to square one.

Today, I’m sharing a real-life example that will show you how to text with confidence—once and for all!

So here’s the situation:

My client, Jay, was texting with a woman on Bumble. He suggested meeting up, but she was waiting on some out-of-town plans and couldn’t confirm right away.

He didn’t want the connection to fizzle out and felt a phone or Zoom call would be the right next step. (Smart move, by the way!)

A little backstory:

Jay was tired of walking on eggshells with these apps. He told me he wanted to come across as confident and assertive with this ask—not clingy.

I helped Jay achieve this. Pull up a chair… 🪑

A few weeks ago, Jay popped into my inbox with this message:

His next email rolled in seconds later. Here’s the message he was planning to send her:

As you can see, he ended his message by asking me if it was “too much”…

Short answer: Yes, it’s too much! 😅

From a dating coach’s perspective, I can smell the fear a mile away.

Maybe he’s worried she’ll say no, or that she’s not really interested to begin with.

So, what exactly is wrong with this message?

• It’s aggressive — “Whether this weekend works or not…”

• It’s entirely one-sided, communicating only what he wants — “I’d still like to talk with you.”

• It’s presumptuous — “Phone or Zoom?”

Jay was waiting for my response…

It would have been easy for me to tell him exactly what to say to her. I could’ve suggested something like:

“No worries! Keep me posted on your plans. Meanwhile, up for hopping on a phone or Zoom call this week?”

While this message is pretty solid, I knew it would only take him so far.

The secret to successful dating is to be authentic, so you can build a connection in any scenario.

This quote came to mind: “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”

So I said this instead:

To be honest, I took a bit of a risk! This wasn’t a client I knew that well, and I had no idea how he would take this kind of advice.

But soon after, his name popped up in my inbox again…

Here’s his second attempt after taking my advice to heart:

Ok, let’s take a moment to just acknowledge (and appreciate) the total 180 here. Do you see it?

It’s night and day! ☀️🌚

Let’s break down the new message:

• It’s conversational — “How’s your week?” / “When are you leaving?”

• It’s personal — He builds a connection by playfully mentioning his life as a teacher.

• He’s including her in the decision-making process — “Want to plan forward…?”

Most importantly, the entire energy has shifted. There’s no fear in this message—it’s chill, inviting, and relatable.

And one more thing…

In a million years, I couldn’t have written this for him. And that’s the $100M strategy… It’s AUTHENTIC!

And there it is, the journey of a single text message with the power to change your life because…

Guess what happened next?

Jay was so thrilled, I kid you not, not even 5 minutes later he bought and sped through my Find Your Forever Person course 😅

I checked it with him soon after and here’s what he said…

Is it time to take charge of your dating life? Are you…

• Terrified of approaching women and starting conversations

• Frustrated with self-sabotaging behaviours

• Fed up with gaining traction, then slipping back to square one

• Tired of low self-esteem and not being able to take charge

• Constantly guessing where you stand with women

• And simply REALLY not enjoying your dating life

How would you like to experience this instead 👇🏽

• Charmingly approach women anytime anywhere with ease

• Break free from self-sabotage cycles and know how to have healthier relationship habits

• Know how to move and progress a relationship forward with confidence and assurance

• Skyrocket your confidence from a level 3 to a level 10 and feel DAMN GOOD about yourself

• Learn to communicate effectively, be assertive, and get what you want from dating interactions

• And have an EXCITING, active dating life that’s abundant and fun!

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—Coach Kavita ❤️