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📕 The heart of the matter: From ‘Swiping Right’ to Date Night: A Survival Guide
🌐 The best on the net
💓 O-G-A
🤝🏽 Courses by Dashing Date
💪 Man Up Mission teaser

HEART OF THE MATTER
From ‘Swiping Right’ to Date Night: A Survival Guide.

The world of dating apps can feel like a minefield; one misstep and KABOOM! 💥

Once upon a time, the hardest part of online dating was simply ‘getting the date’.

But now, men have stumbled upon a new challenge - 'keeping the date'.

We're talking about that delicate period between landing a date, and the actual meet-up itself.

We’ve coined this 1-2 week period, 'Gap Week' 🗓️

And today, we’re going to equip you with the skills to navigate this hilly terrain 🏔️

Usually, our guidance revolves around self-reflection, providing you the tools to find your own authentic solutions.

But online dating is a different beast, and united we must stand 💪🏽

So, consider this newsletter a special treat - a rare edition where we hand you the magic sword: The ‘Gap Week’ Survival Guide, filled with everything you need to make it safely to the other side.

Ready? Let’s slay! 🗡️

The story of Ramit 🧔🏽‍♂️

Ramit was a client of ours. A kind, quirky, and smart guy. He had a lot going for him - a great career, a passion for hobbies, and a passport full of travel stamps... but, like many men, his dating life struggled to keep up.

During our time working with Ramit, he conquered a major online dating obstacle - 'getting the date'.

He was matching with at least two quality women per week, and he could land a date with almost anyone he wanted.

But then, a frustrating pattern emerged.

His matches would often cancel a day or two before.

In other words, things would crumble during ‘Gap Week’.

Ramit started to take it personally. Despite his success in securing a date, once it was scheduled, he'd become insecure and anxious.

Navigating ‘Gap Week’ is already tricky, but once your confidence starts to waver, that's when second-guessing and overthinking can take over.

“How much should I communicate before we meet?”
“Is the date still on if I don’t hear from her?”
“She hasn’t responded to my last text, is she still interested?”
“Should I send another text?”
“What should I say?”

All this overthinking led to Ramit putting out a desperate, insecure energy 😟

What was once an exciting idea of meeting someone new, now became a nervous waiting game.

And trust us, that kind of energy can be felt - even through a screen.

However, for Ramit, there was light at the end of the tunnel.

With our help, he figured it out 💡

🧰 An essential tool in Ramit’s dating arsenal was understanding some fundamentals around communication. Introducing…

Now think about how you typically communicate with your dates.

Yep, you've got it, TEXTING 💬

In the world of SMS, tone and body language are completely removed from the equation, leaving almost everything open to interpretation 🔍

That means the women you match with have to rely on their personal experiences and perspectives to piece together an image of you. Just imagine how far from reality this can be!

With two strangers trying to build a connection this way, it’s no wonder why things go sideways during ‘Gap Week’.

We're not saying you should stop texting altogether until your date rolls around. But what we are saying is to set yourself up to win, aiming for a clear line of communication that doesn’t leave anyone guessing.

Plus, women dig and appreciate good communication skills.

So, how did Ramit turn things around?

For starters, armed with this new understanding, Ramit found it easier to refrain from taking things so personally. This not only boosted his confidence but also allowed him to make smarter decisions, helping him keep things afloat during 'Gap Week'.

His next step: He employed what we call the “Why + When” Method.

Let’s get into it.

The ‘Why + When’ Method

Let's peel back the layers of the dating onion and zoom in on one particular example of Gap Week, where Ramit matched with Jessica on a Sunday.

Here's the step-by-step breakdown of how he put our 'Why + When' method into action. Brace yourself for a tear-free journey!

Sunday: Ramit and Jessica match on Bumble. They speak on the phone (this is one of Ramit’s ‘moves’ by the way) and he secures a date for Friday night. They’ll meet for drinks 🍸

Monday: Ramit reaches out to Jessica via text. He wants to set the tone for what she can expect in terms of communication during ‘Gap Week’ 💬

In writing this text, he follows our ‘Why + When’ Method: He doesn’t just tell her when he’ll be in touch next, but also casually drops in the reason why.

The 'Why' is crucial because it cuts through potential overthinking, and let's face it – everyone is over-analyzing texts!

Fast-forward to Wednesday: Without the added stress of overthinking, Ramit has more room to play! He decides to reach out earlier than planned:

Thursday rolls around: Ramit sticks to his word and reaches out to confirm the plans. He’s prepared with a few suggestions on where they can meet for drinks.

They finalize the plan and, again, Ramit wraps it up with exactly what she can expect next.

Friday AKA Date Night: Et Voilà! Ramit has made it to Friday with not just a date in place, but an anticipated one at that! This takes us to the end of a successfully navigated ‘Gap Week’, all achieved without excessive texting, overthinking or unnecessary stress.

Is this method guaranteed to work?

When it comes to dating, nothing is foolproof. But if you've ever found yourself feeling lost and overwhelmed in the battlefield of online dating, left wondering “where did I go wrong?”, this approach is reliable, and sure to lead you to more meaningful and enjoyable dates.

_{Alright, time for a recap!}

1. Keep the 7-38-55 rule in your back pocket. It’s not about having the courage to speak up, it’s about the fundamentals of communication. Use this new knowledge to your advantage.

2. Limit texting until after you’ve met face-to-face. Use the ‘Why + When’ Method to manage expectations and get you both through 'Gap Week'.

3. Unsure or unclear about something? Just ask! Talk directly to your date (not your best buddy!). Remember, there are two of you in this. You're not supposed to carry the weight of figuring it all out solo.

To build on this “Just Ask” concept, we're loading up your survival guide with even more goodness - templates of what you can say the next time your mind starts to whirl and twirl…

And there you have it! You're now equipped with the ‘Gap Week’ Survival Guide.

Remember, this isn't about having polished lines or rehearsed answers. These are simply frameworks! At the end of the day, it's all about authenticity, respect, and being genuine. So borrow anything you need from these strategies, and over time, tweak them to make them your own.

The real magic happens when you tailor this guidance to your unique style and personality!

THREE AWESOME LINKS...🌐
The Best On The Net

[Twitter 🧵] I asked 30 women out over 30 days (link)

[IG Post 🎞️] 5 dating templates for texting (link)

[Article 🗞️] 20 perfect first messages on a dating app (link)

THE USUAL...💓
O-G-A

📱 Online dating tip of the week:

Don't initiate or get sucked into long, overwhelming text conversations. Practice crafting insightful yet compact replies, and keeping the banter alive with short, easy questions. For example, “I love sushi too! Just tried ‘Sushi Mania’ with friends last week 🍣 Have you been?”

🧠 Growth Man Quote:

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place."- George Bernard Shaw

🪞 Affirmation of the week:

“My voice is one of my strongest tools”

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This week's mission, Mr. Smooth Talker, is designed to turn you into a 'Gap Week' Guru! Our 3 step plan will show you exactly how to use these new techniques in everyday situations, so you can effortlessly transition them into your dating life.

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AND AS ALWAYS...

💡How We Can Help

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Thanks for reading, and see you next time 🫡
-The Dating Dose Team ❤️

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