Greetings Gentlemen,

Welcome to the upside of the dating world. I’m Coach Kavita 🙋🏻‍♀️ Love Coach for Men. Each week, I share expert dating advice to help you get better at dating.

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“I’ll be ready to date as soon as….”

Sound familiar?

I get it—you want your ducks in a row.

It's 2025, and you've got fitness goals to crush, career moves to make, and a stack of books you're determined to read. And then—you promise—you’ll start dating.

But let’s be real. That’s just an excuse. Even if you’ve convinced yourself, I’m not buying it.

Putting dating on hold in the name of “self-improvement” is one of the biggest mistakes you can make.

Let me explain.

Personal growth, especially in dating and relationships, happens through real-life experiences. 

Just as you can’t master a sport without playing it…

You can’t improve your dating skills, emotional intelligence or ability to connect, without engaging with women.

Here’s my philosophy when working with clients:

👉🏼 We view early stage dating as the ultimate training ground for personal growth opportunities.

👉🏼 Dating is an integral part of your personal development journey, not separate from it.

👉🏼 Rather than completely “turning off” your dating life, we simply “adjust The Dating Dial”, turning it up and down as needed 🌡️

👉🏼 By maintaining some level of dating activity and mindset, you prevent “Restart Shock” — the difficulty of having to restart from zero when you finally feel “ready”. (And I know most of you are already feeling this…. so get moving)

So, what is ‘The Dating Dial?’

Think of it as your personal gauge for how much time, energy, and intention you’re putting into dating.

The key? Never turn it off—that’s what leads to “Restart Shock” and makes jumping back in a nightmare. Instead, you adjust the dial as needed.

Dialing it down might mean focusing on light, low-pressure activities, like reading a book about attachment styles or chatting with me—your dating coach—about the fears or struggles holding you back.

Dialing it up could mean getting back on the apps with a new profile or starting conversations with women you meet during your day.

The point is to stay engaged at some level.

What’s your Dating Dial at?

Follow the steps below:

1️⃣ Rate yourself: On a scale of 1 to 100, where’s your Dating Dial right now? Are you barely engaged (5), casually putting yourself out there (50), or fully focused on meeting someone (90)?

2️⃣ Define it: What does that number mean for you? What does it indicate in terms of your current mindset, intention and actions.

3️⃣ Turn it up: What number do you want to aim for? Identify 1-2 small steps to start dialing it up. Maybe it’s scheduling a coffee date this week, starting a conversation with a woman, or DM-ing me on Instagram to help you out and create a game plan.

With love,

Coach Kavita
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—Coach Kavita ❤️