"If you are tempted to look outside yourself for approval, you have compromised your integrity.”

— Epictetus

Greetings Gentlemen!

It’s Coach Kavita here 👩🏻 I’m a Love Coach for Men, and the Writer behind The Dating Dose!

I help growth-minded men (just like you) re-enter the dating world, build unshakable confidence, and find LOVE! ❤️

Each week, I’ll be here sharing the kind of expert dating advice and insights that clients pay the big bucks for 💰

In today's dose... 💉

😅 Never Overthink What To Text Again!
💪🏽 Your Man Up Mission “Easy Breezy Texting”
🥰 Find Your Forever Person
📮 Did You Miss My 5 Question Survey?

And more!

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🎞️ 6 Golden Texting Tips (link)
📺 Free 6 Minute Confidence Workshop (link)
🎞️ 3 Steps to Quickly Improve Communication (link)

📊 Bonus! In case you missed it, please answer my quick, multiple choice 5 question survey. It will help you get better at dating (link)

TEXT WITH CONFIDENCE - DATING DEEP DIVE
Never Overthink What To Text Again!

Ever sat there frozen, thumbs hovering, debating that text you’re about to send…

The stakes feel high, maybe your heart is even racing a little. This next message is either gonna land you a date, or send you back to the drawing board.

Today, I'm pulling back the curtain on a real-life example that will teach you how to text with confidence, once and for all!

So here's the situation: 

My client, Jay, was texting with a woman on Bumble. He suggested meeting up, but she was waiting on some out-of-town plans and couldn't confirm right away.

He didn’t want the connection to fizzle out, and felt a phone call or Zoom call would be the right next step. (Good move, btw!)

A little backstory: 

Jay was tired of walking on eggshells with these apps. He told me he was keen to come across as confident and assertive with this ask, not clingy.

I helped Jay achieve this. Pull up a chair… 🪑

A few weeks ago, Jay popped into my inbox with this message:

His next email rolled in seconds later. Here’s the message he was planning to send her:

As you can see, he ended his messaging by asking me if it was “too much”…

Short answer: Yes, it’s too much!! 😅

From a dating coach’s perspective let me tell you I can smell the fear a mile away.

Maybe he’s scared she’ll say no, or that she’s not really interested to begin with.

So what exactly is wrong with this message?

1. It’s aggressive — “Whether this weekend works or not...”

2. It’s entirely one sided, communicating only what he wants — “I’d still like to talk with you”

3. It’s presumptuous — “Phone or zoom?”

Jay was waiting for me to respond…

It would have been easy for me to tell him exactly what to say to her. I could have suggested something like…

“No worries! Keep me posted on your plans. Meanwhile, up for hopping on a phone or Zoom call this week?”

While the message is pretty great, I knew it would only take him so far.

But the secret to successful dating is to be authentic so that you can build connection in any scenario.

This quote came to mind… “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”

So I said this instead:

To be honest, I took a bit of a risk! This wasn’t a client I knew that well, and I had no idea how he would interpret this kind of advice.

But soon after, his name popped up in my inbox again..

Here’s his 2nd attempt after taking my advice to heart:

Ok let’s take a moment to just acknowledge (and appreciate) the total 180 here. Do you see it?

It’s night and day!☀️🌚 

Let’s break down the new message:

1. It’s conversational — “How’s your week?” / “When are you leaving?”

2. It’s personal — he builds a connection by talking about his life as a teacher in a playful way.

3. He’s including her in the decision making process — “Want to plan forward…?”

Most importantly, the entire energy has shifted. There is no fear in this message, it’s Chill. Inviting. Relatable.

And one more thing…

In a million years, I couldn’t have written this for him. And that’s the $100M strategy… It’s AUTHENTIC!

And there it is, the journey of a single text message with the power to shift the entire conversation.

What happened next?

That remains Jay's story.

But! Soon after our exchange, he ended up buying my pre-recorded Confidence King Masterclass, so I guess he was happy after all!

How can you learn this strategy? Of course, I have it all perfectly packaged for you in this week’s Man Up Mission below.

IT’S TIME FOR ACTION! HERE’S THIS WEEK’S MISSION…
'Easy Breezy Texting’

When I coach clients, we don't just chat over coffee. We roll up our sleeves and get our hands dirty.

That's why every week, I bring you the Man Up Mission. Think of it as your weekly homework with a fun twist, designed to get you real results in your dating life.

📬 ‘Easy Breezy Texting’ is all about sinking into your confidence when it comes to communicating!

Over the next 7 days, your mission is practice the art of conversation—beyond the words. 

So next time, before you hit that ‘Send’ button… Here are 5 key considerations to take into account. Each one is a building block to not just a message, but a connection.

Step 1 - Think about her, not just your own agenda.

Step 2 - What would it look/feel like to sink into your confidence right now?

Step 3 - What is something you can do in under 5 minutes to lift your spirits before replying?

Step 4 - Remember what this is really about; dating & connection.

Step 5 - How do you want others to feel in your presence?

Start to notice the differences in your texts, Before and After. With practice, this will soon become second nature.

💡Pro-tip - Struggling to find texting opportunities? First, get better at messaging women on dating apps with my free framework: The 'First Message' cheat code.

💡💡Pro-Pro tip - If your dating life is non-existent, and you are starting from scratch, my Find Your Forever Person course has everything you need.

And that’s it for this week! Remember, you can’t have confidence in something until you do it.

You got this! 💪🏽

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That's all for now!

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—Coach Kavita ❤️

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