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Stop Losing Women at "Hey".
PLUS: The 'First Message' cheat code 💬 , 5 Re-engage texts, Tons of online dating tips
The Dating Dose
August 31, 2023
Greetings gentlemen!
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In today's dose...💉
📝Stop Losing Women at "Hey".
📕5 Re-engagement texts.
🔥A TON of online dating tips.
⭐$1100 in insane FREEBIES.
And more!
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📺 How to never run out of things to say (link)
HEART OF THE MATTER
Stop Losing Women at "Hey". The First Message cheat code that works 💬
You got a match — yay! She's cute, interesting, just your type - and you're excited to get the conversation going.
But then... the usual song and dance begins. You feel the need to craft the perfect first message…
Maybe it's because you never got a reply the last time, or the conversation fizzled out right away.
We get it.
Matches can be hard to come by these days. And that first message can feel like walking on a tightrope…
The need to stand out.
The desire to say something clever.
The fear of messing it up and having to start over.
But what if we told you there was a way to get her attention without overthinking it? (And without having to dust off your old copy of The Game)
The truth is, the type of women you are looking to meet aren’t swayed by cookie-cutter perfection.
Just like you, they’re craving authenticity in a sea of boring “Heys” and cheesy one liners.
Today we’re handing over the keys to the AKAC Framework: Our easy to follow, step-by-step method for starting Authentic Kick-Ass Conversations on dating apps every time.
Your online experience is about to do a complete 180. Let’s go!
Step 1 - Read her full profile
The first step sounds straightforward but you’d be surprised at how many men don’t bother reading profiles, and just barely skim photos.
Before you think about sending a message, you must read her entire profile from top to bottom, NO exceptions. Be present and pay close attention. Her bio is your ultimate cheat sheet!
Step 2 - What made you smile?
Ah, the secret sauce!! As you read her profile, what was the first thing that either:
Caught your attention 😍
Made you curious 🤓
Brought a smile to your face 😊
Was it the picture of her pup at the dog park? Or the mention of her love for Italian food?
Whatever the case, that's what you should run with—even if it’s super basic. Why? Because genuine interest can be felt.
There's a big difference between working overtime to ‘say the right thing’ VS leading with what actually caught your eye about her. It also sets the tone for a real and meaningful exchange going forward.
Step 3 - Share something you have in common
Next, look for shared interests or commonalities in her profile.
Maybe you're both diehard Radiohead fans, or closet 'Love is Blind' fans (no judgement!).
Want more secret sauce? Just living in the same city is a solid point of connection.
Bringing up what you share in common creates a sense of comfort and builds credibility, while mentioning something about the city you both live in (like a restaurant, landmark or upcoming festival) quickly establishes trust.
Step 4 - Ask a question!
Lastly, you’re going to finish up this winning message with a casual question.
Again, it doesn’t have to be clever (or even related to her profile). Something simple is all you need. Like:
“Any fun weekend plans?”
“How’s Summer been treating you?”
“How’s your Monday going?”
The goal here is to make it easy for her to engage in a light conversation with you. Many women are naturally drawn to answering questions — it taps into her desire to share and connect.
Now, let’s see the AKAC framework in action.
First, read Sara’s full profile:
Next, let's use Sara’s profile as our example for how to initiate an Authentic Kick-Ass Conversation. We've color-coded the steps to make it foolproof.
And, there you have it — the AKAC framework in all its glory. Don’t be fooled by its simplicity — this method is highly effective and has helped hundreds of men get better at online dating, not to mention enjoy it more.
The beauty of this approach is that it's so adaptable. Whether you’re texting Sara, Deepa, or Lucy, the core steps remain the same.
With practice, soon enough it will become second nature to you.
And now that you have a reliable way to get conversations going, your only goal is to move off the app, be it to an IRL date or video call. If you find yourself stuck, refer back to our 51 texts for dating success.
🧠 PRO TIP!
It can be frustrating when a conversation seems to be going well, but then you're met with silence — no reply to your last message. Don't jump to the worst conclusions!
The reality is women often get more matches and messages than men. It's entirely possible your chat simply got lost in the shuffle. So, don't be discouraged and, more importantly, don't take it personally! She doesn't even know you yet.
The key is to find a warm and genuine way to stand out and bump the conversation back up.
For example:
"Hey, how's it going? I enjoyed our last chat and was hoping to continue the convo!"
“Following up. Was enjoying our convo. Xo.”
“Busy day? Was enjoying our chat 😇”
"Hey, hope you're doing well. Still up for coffee some time?"
“Leaving me in suspense are we? 🙈”
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THE USUAL...💓
O-G-A
📱Online dating tip of the week:
Make your profile a conversation starter! Sure, listing "travel, food, and Netflix" as your interests covers the basics. But you’re far better off if you give her something to work with. For example, instead of "I’m a total foodie," try "mad about sushi and can never say no to a taco truck." Or instead of "I enjoy travel" say "I've got a travel bucket list, ask me where I’m headed next!"
🧠Growth Man Quote:
“Do not take life too seriously. You will never get out of it alive.” - Elbert Hubbard
🪞Affirmation of the week:
"I am exactly who I need to be at this moment."
Your Man Up Mission is 1 practical 'to-do' item each week to keep you moving, motivated, and manly! It’s designed to help you put theory into practice and see tangible results in your dating life.
This week's mission is called: Texting Triumph!
It's a 7-day messaging marathon designed to elevate your DM game on dating apps — and beyond! Think of it as your personal training camp for becoming a messaging all-star.
I WANNA HEAR FROM YOU! 👂🏽
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