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Here's the secret sauce to attracting women 👀
The Dating Dose
October 21, 2023
"The two things in life you are in total control over are your attitude and your effort.”
— Billy Cox
Greetings gentlemen!
This is The Dating Dose! We’re like your friendly flight attendant, here to ensure clear skies and smooth landings on your journey to love! ✈️
In today's dose... 💉
😍 How To Be a Happier Man
🤫 The Secret Sauce to Attracting Women
🚀 The Joy Jetpack
And more!
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DATING DEEP DIVE…
How To Be A Happy Man
Picture this: Two guys walk into a bar.
Guy 1 lights up the space. He's not necessarily the best looking or richest guy in the room, but he's got a certain kind of vibe that oozes confidence.
Guy 2, on the other hand...well, let's just say you can almost feel the mood drop when he enters the room. He’s a decent guy, but he just seems to have a dark cloud over him.
What's the difference between these two men?
It's their energy⚡️
If you want to attract your dream woman, you need to be more like Guy #1.
And — plot twist — you already are! 😉
Curious? Buckle your seat belt, coz we’re about to take off ✈️
Today we’re exploring our favorite topic - the secret sauce to attraction. And believe it or not, it's not about how much you bench, your bank balance 💰 or even your Burberry cologne.
It's about the energy, the 'vibe', the emotional state, you spend most of your time in.
FUN FACT: Your energy introduces you before you even speak💥
It plays a powerful role in your love life.
Get it in check and dating will become a lot more exciting.
Let’s talk more about what makes Guy #1 so captivating to women.
In short, he’s Mr. Good Vibes. He prioritizes doing things that make him feel good, which results in spending the majority of his time in a positive emotional state. These good vibrations radiate outwards and can be felt by others 🥰
But don’t take our word for it!
The Law of Attraction states that you attract what you are, not what you want. In other words, the first step to getting the thing you 'want', is to become that thing.
Say whaaaa 😵💫⁉️
Let's apply it to dating with some examples:
You might want to attract 'a 9' (someone you see as near-perfect), but if you behave like ‘a 6’, you’re going to attract ‘a 6’.
You might want a serious girlfriend, but If you’re insecure about finding one, you’re going to attract uncertainty into your dating life.
You might want your new relationship to be smooth-sailing, but if you’re scared to communicate, you’re going to attract a rocky ride.
On the other hand, if you choose to be optimistic, communicate clearly, and openly seek new and exciting opportunities, guess what you'll attract into your life? 🧲
Positive, clear and rewarding dating experiences 🙌🏽 - at least most of the time!
Understanding this Law of Attraction is a great start, but to truly embody Mr. Good Vibes, you need more than just knowledge.
You need a practical approach, and we have just the thing for you…
That's where the Emotional Guidance Scale comes into play.
The ‘EMOTIONAL GUIDANCE SCALE’ and How To Use it.
At its core, the scale consists of 22 levels, ranging from joy, appreciation, and optimism (the higher end 📈) to worry, desperation, and fear (the lower end 📉).
It was created by world-renowned spiritual teachers, Abraham Hicks, who have significantly contributed to the self-improvement field with their extensive body of work.
If you’re re-entering the dating scene after a long time, think of the scale as your emotional GPS 🧭. It can guide you to identify and understand your feelings, and what energy you’re putting out into the world.
You might be surprised by the order of emotions. For instance, 'worry' actually ranks higher than 'anger' 🧐
This could sound strange, but think about it… ‘Worry’ shows you're thinking ahead, which is more active, while ‘anger’ usually means you're stuck or stewing.
The Emotional Guidance Scale is respected in psychology because it takes all of this into account.
The higher up on the scale, the more likely you are to attract positive experiences (and compatible partners) into your life. Just like Guy #1.
As you can see, ‘Joy’ is ranked the highest.
Now let's be real, dating isn't always a joy-filled journey. And that's okay. You don't need to be Cupid on Valentine’s Day to attract love 😅
But you do need strategies to become aware of your emotions and energy, and the scale does just that - serving as your guide to gently move your way up, one small step at a time.
On a micro level, you can refer to it daily to manage the very usual ups and downs of dating life ⬆️⬇️. It can help you shift how you feel in just minutes, or even a few hours. (What a gift!)
On a macro level, you can use it to change how you generally feel about your dating life. For example, if you've been discouraged for a long time, let it guide you towards a more optimistic outlook, let's say, in a month or two from now.
So how does one move up the scale?
Gabby Bernstein, author of the New York Times best-selling book "Super Attractor," says:
"DISTRACTION IS POWERFUL. One of the fastest ways to guide yourself back up the emotional scale is to do something that makes you feel good. If I’ve had a bad day, I’ll pick out some music, grab my headphones and walk around the block."
"Fun can come from the simplest acts. Exercise, call a friend, do a crossword puzzle or play with your child. If an activity brings you a sense of satisfaction, contentment, excitement or happiness, then it’s fun. As soon as you lean into a joyful experience, you move yourself up the emotional scale."
Just to be clear, distraction does not mean avoiding what you're feeling. But rather, the better your emotional state, the better you can deal with the inevitable challenges that go hand in hand with dating.
And now the fun begins…
This is your time to explore new practices and hobbies, and reconnect with activities that infuse your life with joy and good vibes!
And to get the wheels spinning, we've created an actionable, easy-to-follow framework called the 'Joy Jetpack 🚀 '. It'll be covered in this week's Man Up Mission, which will be arriving in your inbox shortly.
Before we move along, here’s how to use the Emotional Guidance Scale, there's 4 steps:
Step 1. Find your current emotion on the scale 🔍
Step 2. Look at the emotion one step up from your current emotion and ask yourself:
A. What thoughts attract this emotion? 💭
B. How do I behave when expressing this emotion?
Step 3. Create/feel the emotion that is at least 1 step up from your current emotion:
A. Reach for better feeling thoughts, even if you don't feel connected to them at first. An affirmation is a great example.
B. Do an activity that brings you closer to joy.
Step 4. Repeat Steps 1-3 until you arrive at your desired emotion 🎯
💡PRO TIPS:
You can jump emotions. It doesn’t have to be a linear process.
Every emotion that is a step up from your current one is an improvement, even if it’s on the lower end of the scale.
When you are just getting started, it helps to speak the words out loud to generate more feeling behind the exercise.
Alright, let’s prepare for landing 🛬
Unlike your professional life, where you're required to show up daily, you don't have to be 'on' for your love life all the time. Especially not in the early phases of dating. This isn't about forcing things when you're not feeling it.
Instead, trust your pilot instincts. Double down on your love life when you're feeling good, otherwise, take a little break 😅! And don’t be surprised by a bit of turbulence along the way.
Safe travels on your flight to love!
MAN UP MISSION...
'The Joy Jetpack 🚀🚀'
Your Man Up Mission is 1 practical 'to-do' item each week to keep you moving, motivated, and manly! It’s designed to help you put theory into practice and see tangible results in your dating life.
This week's mission is called: The Joy Jetpack! READ IT HERE!
Prepare yourself for the ultimate reunion with joy, fun and happiness! We've got a direct, easy-to-follow path laid out for you to embody your inner 'Mr. Good Vibes’.
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That's all for now! Thanks for reading, and see you next time 🫡
—The Dating Dose Team ❤️