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💌 Oops! Are You Guilty of These 5 Dating Mistakes
PLUS: How to get out of a rut, talk to women and build a love life you want
The Dating Dose
September 21, 2023
"Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.”
— Brené Brown
Greetings gentlemen!
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In today's dose... 💉
😱 5 Big Dating Mistakes
📕 Do This, Not That.
🦸🏻♂️ How to Build the Love Life You Want.
And more!
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HEART OF THE MATTER…
Are You Guilty of These 5 Big Dating Mistakes?
Starting to date again can feel like running through a maze blindfolded. Should you go left or right? Slide into a DM or an actual conversation?
While the twists and turns are inevitable (and with the right mindset, can make the dating journey much more rewarding!), there’s no need to feel completely lost.
Today, we're shedding light on 5 common dating mistakes we've seen men make so you can sidestep the pitfalls and walk a little taller than before.
MISTAKE 1 - Oops! You’re on mute 🤐
You're looking for love, but have you actually told anyone?
When you decide to start dating again, it can make you feel vulnerable.
But it’s important to remember, we’re all looking for love and connection. So keeping it a secret is kinda like waiting for the bus at a train station. Doesn't make much sense.
If you're willing to open up, your next relationship might be closer than you think.
Let the people in you life—your friends, family, coworkers, and even your barber, know you're looking to date—they can be a big help in setting you up.
You don't have to make it a grand announcement. Just casually mention it next time you're catching up with a friend or talking to a colleague during a coffee break.
Try saying something like… 'Hey, I'm thinking of getting back into the dating game. If you know anyone cool, I'm all ears.'
The people in your life who care about you will be excited to be part of your journey. And they’ll probably get a kick out of playing Cupid!
So, open up and start planting those seeds 🌱
MISTAKE 2 - Oops! You're in a dating groundhog day 🔁
Are you meeting new people?
We understand how easy it is to get stuck in the same old loop—Work—Gym—Netflix repeat—we're not here to point fingers. But if you want to meet someone, you really gotta add variety into your routine.
The good news is, you don't have to flip your schedule upside down - just mix it up. Even small changes can have a big impact.
DO THIS, NOT THAT:
Always plugged into headphones on your commute?
Hit pause on that dating podcast and try striking up a real conversation instead.
And your solo gym workouts?
Consider joining a group class once a week (Pro Tip: Yoga classes are usually brimming with women 👩)
As for those regular Friday night beers with the boys?
Swap one out for speed dating once a month.
MISTAKE 3 - Oops! You're the strong, silent type—Too silent 🤫
But seriously, when was the last time you asked someone out?
When you’ve been out of the game for a while, your conversation skills tend to get rusty.
But how are you going to land any dates if you don’t start chatting with the gals?
Throughout your day, start making a conscious effort to engage with more women. And not just women you’re attracted to, talk to anyone! This is about getting back into the swing of things.
Whether it's the server on your lunch break or the cashier ringing up your groceries, opportunities to connect are everywhere.
Start with a 'hello' today, and you might be asking 'When can I see you again?' tomorrow.
For a deeper dive, we've covered this topic extensively in a previous newsletter, offering numerous examples and techniques. Check it out here.
MISTAKE 4 - Oops! You're aiming for the moon, but missing the stars 🌕
Are you rushing to the finish line?
Imagine this: It's December 1st. You've just wrapped up an inspiring call with your dating coach, and you're brimming with enthusiasm.
You declare, "I'll have a girlfriend by Christmas!".
We absolutely love that energy, and we're all for manifesting. But we also know that motivation tends to ebb and flow.
In the midst of this high-energy wave, there's a risk of setting your sights too high and setting yourself up for disappointment.
Here's a gentle reminder: Love doesn't operate on your personal timelines. If you do end up meeting someone soon, charging ahead with intense relationship goals can feel really overwhelming for everyone involved.
And while it might sound cliché, the beauty of dating is truly in the journey, not the destination.
The initial stages of getting to know someone, the excitement of the first few dates, and the memories you create together are the golden moments. Don’t miss it.
MISTAKE 5 - Oops! You're the Waldo of the internet 🤷🏻♂️
Where you at, son?
Your online presence is more significant today than ever before. Gone are the days when a simple profile picture and status update were enough.
Your digital footprint is a reflection of who you are, your interests, and your lifestyle. And guess what? People are looking you up, especially potential dates.
Here's why it's crucial:
Before even meeting you, someone might Google your name. What they find can shape their first impression of you. And this is a good thing! It puts you in the driver’s seat of how others perceive you. A polished LinkedIn or an engaging Instagram can speak volumes about your personality and interests.
Dating apps are one the primary ways to meet and connect with new people. A well-crafted profile is a non-negotiable. It will attract quality matches and make dating a whole lot easier.
In the age of catfishing, having a genuine online presence helps communicate safety and builds trust. It reassures people that you're the real deal.
Don’t go on every platform, but pick a few that resonate with you and make them shine.
Take it step by step; you don't need to perfect everything overnight. But do carve out time to work on this behind the scenes. It's an investment in yourself and your future connections.
[BONUS] MISTAKE 6 - Oops! You're going solo on this journey 🚶
You don’t have a dating coach?
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Exploring the dating maze isn't always a walk in the park. But as you continue to gather breadcrumbs of wisdom and insights like these along the way, the path becomes easier to navigate
So, lace up those shoes, stand tall, and take action. You got this 👊
MAN UP MISSION...
'Blind Spot Breakthrough' 🔦
Your Man Up Mission is 1 practical 'to-do' item each week to keep you moving, motivated, and manly! It’s designed to help you put theory into practice and see tangible results in your dating life.
This week's mission is called: Blind Spot Breakthrough!
It's one powerful and courageous step designed to help accelerate your love life, reveal patterns, and clear roadblocks that may have been holding you back.
📬 Delivery Date: Your mission details will be delivered straight to your inbox this coming Saturday morning!
Don’t miss it!
Until then, go over today’s Heart of the matter article (above) — re-read it, soak it in, take notes, and keep your eyes peeled for how to put it into action.
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That's all for now! Thanks for reading, and see you next time 🫡
—The Dating Dose Team ❤️