"I will have to remember ‘I am here today to cross the swamp, not to fight all the alligators.’"

— Rosamund Stone Zander

Greetings Gentlemen!

It’s Coach Kavita here 👩🏻 I’m a Love Coach for Men, and the Writer behind The Dating Dose!

I help growth-minded men (just like you) re-enter the dating world, build unshakable confidence, and find LOVE! ❤️

Each week, I’ll be here sharing the kind of expert dating advice and insights that clients pay the big bucks for 💰

Btw, I would love to get to know you better 🙂 Click here to tell me about yourself.

In today's dose... 💉

❤️‍🔥 Dating Deep Dive - Your Questions Answered!
🧔🏽‍♂️ Online Dating Advice for Short Men
👩🏻 The #1 Thing She’s Looking For
💪🏽 Man Up Mission - “Hit Submit!”

And more!

AWESOME STUFF I FOUND FOR YOU THIS WEEK…

The Best On The Net

🎞️ What to ask on a first date (link)
🎞️ Are you too nice to women? (link)
🎙️ The science of desire and attachment (link)

DATING DEEP DIVE

Everyday, I post a Q&A on my Instagram story.

Where I answer all your questions about dating and relationships 😇

No question is too ‘beginner’ and I get a wide range of interesting inquiries.

Men are eager to learn from the struggles and experiences shared by others, often finding they're not alone in their journey.

Here are the top questions from men last week…

Mark asked…👇🏽

“What’s the most important thing for a woman during the first date?”

I’m gonna go with safety. Because this is something men don’t have to worry about, it can be easy to forget.

I would even say many women don’t realize they’re looking for this, because it’s on a subconscious level.

Women may actually dismiss a good match not realizing that their innate need for safety wasn’t met.

That’s why it’s so important that men are more aware of this.

You can make her feel safe by making your intentions known. By being respectful and kind. By taking a genuine interest in getting to know her. And by sharing things that you have in common.

At the end of the day, it comes down to authenticity.

Authenticity is everything.

If you’re putting on an act, or have trouble with being yourself, it makes it difficult to connect with others. And she’ll likely have a hard time letting her guard down.

All women are different. A one-size-fits-all answer like “sense of humor is most important” isn’t true and won’t serve you here.

A woman’s “deal-breakers” and “must-haves” depends on her values, desires, life experiences, past relationships etc.

But I can tell you that we are all looking for connection, for love.

So if you want to have a great first date, do the following:

• Be respectful.

• Treat her well.

• Be yourself.

• Lead with curiosity.

• Relax and have fun.

• Set a positive intention.

• Don’t have expectations.

• Don’t make assumptions.

• Be OK with it not going anywhere.

• Don’t put too much pressure on her or yourself.

Farhan asked…👇🏽

“How can a short king improve his chances on the apps when he just gets filtered out?”

Ah, the million dollar question 💰

First, I’m loving the light and playful approach (“short king”). With the right attitude, you’re already ahead of the game. (This is a must-watch).

Ok, now for some Real Talk.

Your height doesn’t define you. In fact, nothing about your physical appearance defines you.

That is a decision only you get to make.

Stop making your height your sole focus.

You have so many other amazing qualities. Take note of them, double and triple down on them.

Highlight them in your dating profile and learn how to market yourself online.

Dating apps are meant to be experimented with.

Try all kinds of things. Highlight your height, make jokes about it, share how your sense of humor (or other personal charm) “makes up for it”.

Include it in your profile. Don’t include it in your profile. Play around and see what works for you. (Just don’t lie about it!)

You will eventually find a sweet spot.

Make sure your photos are A++

And make sure your bio and prompts are 💯💯

Even the ‘tall guys’ struggle if their profile sucks.

Invest in understanding how to get your profile RIGHT. Take App Warrior, my dating app masterclass.

It’s the best course on the internet and will completely change the way you date online.

Confidence is the MOST important.

And it needs to shine through in every corner of your dating profile.

Yes, your confidence can be felt — even through an app.

So, if you’re feeling insecure about your height, start by working on your confidence.

My 90 minute course for men, Confidence King, is life changing.

Lastly, draw some inspiration from this guy, who joked about his height in a skillful way, showcasing his sense of humor and playful personality:

David asked…👇🏽

“What can I do to improve my mentality about dating in my mid-40s?”

Love this question.

The first step is to decide you’re going to have a positive attitude about dating. And don’t look back.

Remember, a positive attitude doesn’t just happen, it’s a choice you make everyday.

Next, and this one is a big one, are you ready to move on?

If you haven’t healed from your past relationships, divorce, or the personal setbacks that kept you from dating, it’s vital to acknowledge and work through these challenges.

Otherwise, you’re going to hit a roadblock real fast.

Assuming you’ve healed, I have something for you.

Read the article I wrote on “Dating after divorce”. It’s full of inspiration, game plans, and shows you the ropes to moving on in 9 steps. Read it here.

To improve your mentality, one of the best things you can do is reconnect with joy.

The more you prioritize joy in your life (through thoughts, people, activities and hobbies) the more you’ll attract positive dating experiences into your life.

I wrote about it in detail HERE. (And make sure to do the Joy Jetpack mission!)

DON’T SKIP THIS…

Let me SHOW you to a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity 👇🏽

Noah asked…👇🏽

“Not finding any of the women I’m meeting attractive. Am I too harsh? Should I settle?”

It sounds like a pattern has developed, which is always an opportunity to reflect.

You don’t have to settle, but you can question yourself.

The fastest and easiest way to change an undesired outcome is to start with your own mindset and behaviors.

Consider these reflection questions:

• “Am I giving the women I meet a fair chance?”

• “How quickly am I dismissing someone?”

• “When did I last think about what I’m looking for in a partner?”

• “Looks aside, are the women I’m meeting aligning with my other values?”

• “What does ‘attractive’ mean to me?”

• “How many 2nd / 3rd / 4th dates am I going on, where I’ll really get to know someone?”

• “Am I constantly looking for red flags? 🚩”

• “Am I trying different activities on first dates?”

🙋🏻‍♀️ Make sure to scroll down for this week’s Man Up Mission, where I guide you to becoming more comfortable getting answers to your own pressing dating questions.

And there you have it! Real questions from real men, just like you.

Remember, you don't have to navigate this alone! I'm here to help guide you every step of the way.

IT’S TIME FOR ACTION! THIS WEEK’S MISSION IS…

'Hit Submit’

When I coach clients, we don't just chat over coffee. We roll up our sleeves and get our hands dirty.

That's why every week, I bring you the Man Up Mission. Think of it as your weekly homework with a fun twist, designed to get you real results in your dating life.

📬 ‘Hit Submit’ is all about embracing your curiosity and the strength in seeking support!

This week, your mission is to open yourself up to new perspectives and assistance. You have 7 days to complete the steps below:

Step 1 - Reflect! Take a moment to write down 1 question that's on your mind. If it’s about dating, great. But it doesn’t even have to be! Any question you have about being single right now is valid.

Step 2 - Connect! Follow me on Instagram by clicking here. (Btw, I share a ton advice and resources for men that you don’t wanna miss.)

Step 3 - Submit! Check out my story for the latest “Ask Coach Kavita” question box, and submit your question to me!

💡Pro-tip - Not used to asking for help? If this mission makes you uncomfortable, all the more reason to lean into it.

And remember this, by asking your question, you help not only yourself but also your fellow men on similar paths. Someone out there will be grateful you asked!

You got this! 💪🏽

I WANNA HEAR FROM YOU! 👂🏽

That's all for now!

If you’re ready for more in your love life, click here to tell me about yourself! 🤝🏽

—Coach Kavita ❤️

Follow me on Instagram for MORE dating advice!

“Shoot your shot and detach from the outcome”