"Instead of looking for a person who checks all the boxes, focus on a person with whom you can imagine yourself writing a story with that entails edits and revisions.”

— Esther Perel

Greetings gentlemen!

This is The Dating Dose! We're like your trusty caddie, ready to help you swing for a hole-in-one on the most adventurous course on the planet: Datingland!

In today's dose... 💉

❤️‍🩹 Ready to Date After Divorce?
👩🏾 13 Places to Meet Women
💬 7 Honest Conversation Openers

And more!

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How to Meet Women at Grocery Stores (link)

DATING DEEP DIVE…
How To Date After Divorce

Whether it was 6 days ago, 6 months or 6 years… the verdict is clear. Divorced men are facing the same problem - worry and confusion.

You are here 📍

You've taken the time to heal, rebuild and regroup (your resilience is admirable!).

Deep down, you know it’s time to get back out there.

But after divorce, stepping back into dating can feel like the first day at a new school — terrifying. (And you're not quite sure where to sit at lunch).

Let us be the first to tell you, you don't need to have all the answers right now. And you certainly don’t need to fit into some present day "dating mold”.

All you need is bit of inspiration, a game plan, and a buddy to show you the ropes. That’s us!

Here are 9 ‘Choose your Own Adventure’ steps to get you started.

STEP 1 - Get your energy in check

Before diving back into the dating scene, especially after a significant event like divorce, it's crucial to get your energy in check.

Your energy introduces you before you even say "hello."

If you're leading with fear, insecurity, or past baggage, you’ll create a barrier within yourself making it challenging for anyone to connect with you.

Being self-aware of this underlying energy is necessary because without addressing it, you might find yourself retreating at the first sign of challenge or rejection.

The secret is to prioritize doing things that make you feel good, which results in spending the majority of your time in a positive emotional state. These good vibes radiate outwards and can be felt by others 🥰 

For a deeper dive into mastering your energy and figuring out what makes you feel good, check out our full article here.

STEP 2 - Practice talking to women

Now that you know how to get your energy in check, the most important thing you can do is to simply get more comfortable talking to women.

The best way to do it? Well, talk to women!

It might seem intimidating, but this isn't about potential partners at all. From the single mom at the park to the woman reading a book on your commute, every interaction is a chance to practice and grow.

We can already hear the fear of rejection surfacing. So we're gonna let you in on a secret...

— Women who are actually looking to date actually want to be approached! Watch this 1 min video —

Just ensure you’re always respectful and kind. Kick off conversations with simple, open-ended questions like, "How’s your day going?" or "How’s the book :)?"

Genuine compliments can also be a great icebreaker.

For a deeper dive into how to approach women, check out our full article here.

STEP 3 - Tell people you’re looking to meet someone

Let the people in your life—your friends, family, coworkers (and even your barber!) know you're looking to date—they can be a big help in setting you up.

You don't have to make it a grand announcement. Just casually mention it next time you're catching up with a friend or talking to a colleague during a coffee break.

Try saying something like… 'Hey, I'm thinking of starting to date again. If you have anyone in mind, I’m open to meeting them”

The people in your life who care about you will be excited to be part of your journey.

STEP 4 - Connect with old flames 🔥

You might be surprised to find out how many of your past romantic interests or old flames have also gone through big changes, including divorce.

Start by scrolling through your Facebook or Instagram. If someone catches your eye, drop them a simple message like, "Hey, it's been ages! How have you been?" or "Stumbled upon an old memory of us. How's life treating you?"

Reconnecting isn't just to rekindle old romances. Catching up, sharing experiences and understanding different life journeys can be therapeutic. It's a way to remember parts of yourself, appreciate your growth, and maybe even find new opportunities for companionship or friendship.

STEP 5 - Make new friends

You don’t have to be searching for your next relationship to get back out there.

Instead, cultivate new friendships with both men and women to enrich your social life and take the pressure off.

You can meet new people at fun local events like cultural tours, coffee crawls, cooking classes or any kind of meetup that interests you.

Also, you can use social media to your advantage.

Instagram, LinkedIn, and Facebook aren't just for scrolling through memes. They are powerful tools for expanding your social circle.

See a post from a local facebook group or acquaintance that catches your eye? Slide into their DMs with a genuine question or comment like, "Hey, just saw the hiking group - looks fun. Would love to join the next one! When is it?" 

For a deeper dive into how to make friends as an adult, check out our full article here.

STEP 6 - Go to singles events

Did you know that until last year, we were one of the biggest speed dating companies in North America? (Google ‘Dashing Date’)

So it should come as no surprise that we’re HUGE advocates of singles events. If you’re looking to date, go to the places where everyone is single and looking to mingle!! 

Sign up for an upcoming speed dating event or singles mixer. Don’t overthink it. These types of events are great practice for someone who’s just starting out again.

Then, once you get more comfortable, take your newfound confidence to other group activities. Fundraisers, sports teams, yoga/salsa classes, volunteering, trivia nights, book clubs, and even improv classes can all be places to meet women.

Use Meetup, Eventbrite and Facebook to find interesting stuff happening locally.

STEP 7 - Have a fantastic dating profile

Bumble, Hinge, Tinder…

Sounds like they belong in your toolbox, don’t they? 😂

Dating apps can be scary and intimidating for anyone who’s never used them before or has very little experience.

But before you throw in the towel and blame the algorithm, know this.

When done correctly, your dating profile is as effective as a hammer hitting a nail. So it’s worth some initial investment on your part, be it time or money, to make sure it’s done right.

The shortcut? Get someone to do it for you (like a skilled friend or dating coach), or take a course. This is the best one on the block.

Once you have your profile in tip-top shape, follow our AKAC Framework to break the ice and ace that first message.

STEP 8 - Work with a Dating Coach

Imagine someone could step into your life, tap a magic wand 🪄 and poof ✨💨 - You transform into a love hero 🦸🏻‍♂️

That's the power of working with the right dating coach.

Meet our resident dating expert, Coach Kavita. With her guidance and support, you won't just navigate the dating world; you'll conquer it. 

Fun Fact: Studies have shown that men who work with female dating coaches reach their goals 3X faster and feel more comfortable around women, and approaching women.

Kavita Ajwani (AKA Coach Kavita) is a certified coach with over a decade of experience helping singles find love. Read these testimonials and check her out on Instagram.

She now works exclusively with men and will help you break out of your shell, skyrocket your confidence, stop overthinking, and finally build the love life you want.

Ready to transform your dating journey? Book a free consultation call.

STEP 9 - Be honest

We have good news!!

Honesty is a secret weapon in dating. It's the main driver in building genuine connections.

As someone getting back into the swing of things, it's totally OK to admit you're finding your way. When chatting with someone new, just be real. Let them know where you’re at and that you're learning the ropes again.

Here are a few things you might consider saying:

"I've been out of the dating scene for a bit, so this is a new adventure for me….”

"It's been a while since I've been in the dating scene…"

"I was in a long-term relationship, so I'm rediscovering the dating world. It's been an interesting journey so far….”

"Things sure have changed since the last time I was single…”

"Honestly, I've never really been the 'pickup' type. I value genuine connections…”

"I've been out of the dating game for a while, so I'm still finding my footing…”

"I was with my previous partner for a long time, so this is all a bit new to me. I appreciate patience and a good sense of humor as I navigate this…”

The truth will always set you free. And the right people will appreciate it, and even find it endearing.

Plus, you’ll feel so much lighter not having to keep up the charade. Guess they call honesty the best policy for a reason!

PRO TIP - Beginners luck 🍀

Use your newbie dating status to your advantage. Just like in poker where a beginner can surprise everyone and win, sometimes the less you know, the better! Dive in and see where the journey takes you...You might just find that your fresh perspective and genuine curiosity are your strongest allies right now.

And there you have it, gents! 9 action-packed steps to get you back out there that you can start today.

Remember, no two love stories are the same and this journey gets to be uniquely yours.

So enjoy the ride, embrace the new dating world, and continue getting to know your new self (he’s pretty darn great!).

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MAN UP MISSION...
'Kickin’ It Old School' 🚌

Your Man Up Mission is 1 practical 'to-do' item each week to keep you moving, motivated, and manly! It’s designed to help you put theory into practice and see tangible results in your dating life.

This week's mission is called: Kickin’ It Old School READ IT HERE

Prepare yourself for a nostalgic journey designed to reenergize your present and reshape your approach to dating.

I WANNA HEAR FROM YOU! 👂🏽

That's all for now!

If you’re ready for more in your love life, click here to tell me about yourself! 🤝🏽

—Coach Kavita ❤️

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