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šŸ’Œ Putting In The EFFORT But Can’t Find Your Special Someone?

How to finally get results from dating, The secret big shots know about dating, Places to meet women

Fun Fact:
80% Of Women Are Going To Waste Your Time.

This is good news.

The sooner you accept this, the sooner you can start to focus on the 20% of women that are:

  • Interested in dating.

  • A good match for you.

  • Worth your time!

If you’re tired of putting in the EFFORT but not meeting your special someone…

I’ve got something that might just do the trick…

It’s a strategy that’s seen success across the board—from big-time CEOs to world-class athletes.

It’s called: The 80/20 Rule.

Simply put, the 80/20 rule (or ā€˜Pareto Principle’), is about maximizing efficiency.

The rule states that only 20 percent of our efforts are responsible for a whopping 80% of our results 🤯

Think of it like going to the gym.

A good trainer will skip 80% of exercises to focus on the 20% that will get the results you’re after.

Similarly….

A good dater will skip 80% of women to focus on the 20% that will get the results you’re after.

It's about dating smarter, not harder.

So I was talking to a client last week…

Nice guy.

He’s been trying out different ways to meet women.

He ventured into a Spanish language meet-up.

Felt he made a connection. Messaged her through the meet-up app. Got no response.

In our talk, he told me he was feeling discouraged.

I shared the 80/20 Rule.

I said ā€œDave…

šŸ‘‰šŸ½ Assume that 80% of women at the event are not there to meet someone. It’s your job to find the 20% that are.ā€

I told him to starting asking more targeted questions that will help him connect with the right women:

  • So, what inspired you to come out tonight?

  • So, are you here with friends?

  • So, what are you hoping to get out of today?

The ones who are just there to learn Spanish? Adios muchacha šŸ‘‹šŸ¼ 

But the ones who say they just moved to the city and looking to make new friends? Jackpot šŸŽÆ 

Look, you will meet someone…

Just start putting in the right kind of effort.

And being on one dating app with an ancient profile won’t cut it.

I can already hear you thinking ā€œBut, Coach Kavita! What should I do?ā€

Here are 17 places to meet women organically:

Speed dating, grocery stores, restaurant openings, art exhibits, networking events, language learning classes, outdoor fitness groups, volunteering, Instagram, sports leagues, salsa dancing, improv classes, cooking classes, comedy nights, trivia nights, charity events, coffee shops.

Before we wrap up, let’s not forget the whole idea of finding your ā€˜special’ someone.

If 80% of people were FOR you, finding your ā€˜special someone’ wouldn’t be so special, would it?

-Coach Kavita ā¤ļø